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Eating Treeslettes....... noishe..... mmmnummmmnnnomm

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Eat mine about two weeks ago....The ones I was saving for Christmas.
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Got time to get more and don't forget the twiglets?
Trying desperately not to put too much weight back on, so once Chrimbo is over it's back to the diet and extra exercise.......
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The FT DIY curse has travelled here, as a push fit plastic water pipe T piece has sprung a leak in the airing cupboard, and as it’s the holidays I can’t get anyone to come over to fix till next Saturday, so I’m having to resort to shutting the stop cock
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You can't put the Treeslettes back together again with wood filler....Doh!
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The FT DIY curse has travelled here, as a push fit plastic water pipe T piece has sprung a leak in the airing cupboard, and as itís the holidays I canít get anyone to come over to fix till next Saturday, so Iím having to resort to shutting the stop cock
Where's "Here"? Do you want me to come over and "fix" it for you?
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First "Must Have" item to buy in the Sales....tin opener! Ours gone tits up! Having to resort to seeing what is available in the garage...cold chisel and 4lb lump hammer!
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Not good! Looks lke Mum has had another stroke at my bother's! She's had a sort of seizure, result being she is acting out of character, not sleeping with symptons more like dementia, than a traditional stroke where the body is affected down one side. We may think trhat she may be having a nervous breakdown, as she had one many years ago with similar sort of symptons appaerently. I was far too young to remember, as I was about 6 or 7 then. I feel sorry for my brother, Terry as he is having to look after her at the moment, and Sandra, his wife is just recovering from a valve replacement op for her heart! We would look after her but our annexe is just not habitable at the moment. Emotions are all raw at the moment. All the family can think of is getting her into some sort of respite care temporarily. Then get her assessed. Then plan ahead from there.
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I believe your Mum may have had a TIA (see link) it's like a stroke but lasts a lot shorter than a full stroke and the symptoms can be very subtle, hence the confusion that your Mum is exhibiting (dementia like actions). My Mum's first TIA happened in the post office queue and she dropped her purse when her hand went numb and she could not focus her eyes properly to pick it up. Somebody picked it up for her and she managed to walk home unaided. She had another and a neighbour rang for an ambulance and she was whisked off to A&E. When I got there she was in a real panicked state but did not exhibit any of the classic stroke symptoms. Apart from the obvious fear, she was pretty lucid and managed to explain everything that had happened. Unfortunately she died six days later following a cluster of the TIA's.... I hope your Mum is OK and recovers fully. It is very scary but if she does not have another TIA she should be able to recover with help from Physio and family. Good luck.

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Old 27-12-2017, 05:49 AM
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Thanks for that, Mate. I'll pass that on to the family and let you know.
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Old 27-12-2017, 07:05 PM
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No problem, Matey! I know what it is like and the worry is sometimes worse than actually knowing......
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Well the update is that she has been diagnosed with dementia but a very early stage. We tried to get her into a respite home for a week but she flatly refused. So all we can do is take her home and get the Social Services involved and see how she gets on, as she is still "capable of feeding and washing herself!" Until she leaves the gas on in the oven that is and either blows herself up or gasses herself!
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Old 28-12-2017, 07:32 AM
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As you probably know I have been there, having had a parent with dementia.

Has she been given an official diagnosis or the basic one by the GP?
If it’s the latter then it’s likely that she will undergo tests inc an MRI, and ECG then the diagnosis will be confirmed by the specialist dept dealing with memory problems, who will rubber stamp the diagnosis and prescribe suitable medication. The ecg will check for potential heart problems and determine which meds are suitable.
There’s a lot of help available out there both physically and online, take a look at the Alzheimers society forum https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk where you’ll find advice from ordinary people who have been there and done it. So don’t feel isolated and struggle.
If you reach out to a local branch of the Alzheimers society they will arrange a home visit with mum and family members, and provide targeted advice, have all the necessary official organisations on speed dial , and help arrange any respite reqd. If one of your family decides to take the lead role and become the primary contact or carer, can I suggest that they consider the idea of attending a specific course run by the Alzheimers society called carers information and support program known as CRiSP https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/info/2...port_programme
I was able to attend 2 of these courses and found them invaluable, arming me with information and support, and pointing out where to get help
I found a little fact sheet dealing in this case with communication useful https://www.alz.org/greaterdallas/do...ionateComm.pdf
It helps you deal with situations where you and mum will clash over opinions and communication.
Finally I’d suggest while it’s still possible and she still has capacity that a lasting power of attorney for her finances is setup this can partially be done online https://www.gov.uk/government/organi...ublic-guardian without an LPA you could face a whole shit storm dealing with her finances later on

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Friar I wish your Mum and the family all the best with the situation.
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As you probably know I have been there, having had a parent with dementia.

Has she been given an official diagnosis or the basic one by the GP?
If itís the latter then itís likely that she will undergo tests inc an MRI, and ECG then the diagnosis will be confirmed by the specialist dept dealing with memory problems, who will rubber stamp the diagnosis and prescribe suitable medication. The ecg will check for potential heart problems and determine which meds are suitable.
Thereís a lot of help available out there both physically and online, take a look at the Alzheimers society forum https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk where youíll find advice from ordinary people who have been there and done it. So donít feel isolated and struggle.
If you reach out to a local branch of the Alzheimers society they will arrange a home visit with mum and family members, and provide targeted advice, have all the necessary official organisations on speed dial , and help arrange any respite reqd. If one of your family decides to take the lead role and become the primary contact or carer, can I suggest that they consider the idea of attending a specific course run by the Alzheimers society called carers information and support program known as CRiSP https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/info/2...port_programme
I was able to attend 2 of these courses and found them invaluable, arming me with information and support, and pointing out where to get help
I found a little fact sheet dealing in this case with communication useful https://www.alz.org/greaterdallas/do...ionateComm.pdf
It helps you deal with situations where you and mum will clash over opinions and communication.
Finally Iíd suggest while itís still possible and she still has capacity that a lasting power of attorney for her finances is setup this can partially be done online https://www.gov.uk/government/organi...ublic-guardian without an LPA you could face a whole shit storm dealing with her finances later on
Thanks for all this advise, Pierre. I went all through this with Arthur, the father in law, way back in 1998-2003. Now my older brother and Sister (cousins in reality) are taking on the mantle of looking after Mum. I've alrready tried to explain to them what they need to do, but due to the emotional stress they are not listening. So All I can do is stand by and watch and pick up the pieces. I can feel their pain though. Mum had a nervous breakdown many years ago when looking after Granddad when he had a stroke and dementia. She was in a mental hospital for 5 weeks and even had ECT! This s cured her at that time even though it was quite brutal then as a therapy. My sister reckoned this may be an occurance of that illness, brought on by a mini stroke earlier this year, and when she had an attack of bed bugs, she seems to have flipped and keeps obsessing about them being in the house despite having two rounds of the pest controller spraying everywhere. She was assessed in the James PAdgett, but I'm not sure of how much of an assessment it was. I 'm only getting third hand info at the moment.
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Not listening due to the emotional stress is a normal reaction, a kind of “if we ignore it, it’ll go away” thing. However if they plan ahead and address issues now, and put a care plan in place, it’ll be easier to manage later on. Likewise if they foresee potential issues before they happen, it’s easier to put measures in place. Waiting till they happen THEN trying to get help will cause more stress due to the bureaucratic and funding delays.
If she’s living alone at home then she should be exempt from Council tax due to “severe mental impairment”. Likewise if the diagnosis is confirmed she should be entitled to attendance allowance, a local branch of AgeUK will help fill in the forms for this, once attendance allowance is granted then someone can apply for carers allowance if they are providing over 30hrs care
Another reaction by family is to “wrap them in cotton wool” and try to protect them from themselves, wherever possible let them be themselves and allow them to continue their own life. You’ll know when it’s time to intervene and get mum to step back from doing day to day stuff and let you/family do stuff for her
A couple who I know are still jetting off to Benidorm 2-3 time a year despite his advanced dementia. I was still taking my dad down to the pub for his regular couple of pints right up to 2 days before his death earlier this year. A couple of pints several time a week was one thing he enjoyed throughout his retirement and wanted to keep doing

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I agree mate. We went all through this with Arthur and the family fail to see this. but I have to be patient, nogood the family falling out as it doesn't help the situation with Mum. I spoke to Terry yesterday and things do look clearer. She has been diagnosed with cognitive impairment - https://www.alz.org/dementia/mild-co...irment-mci.asp -which makes sense.
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FT ...I’ve probably stated too much already
I suspect you already know, you can’t be patient waiting for them to act as time isn’t on her side, complacency will set in & before you know it, they’ll settle down into a routine, weeks, or months will pass and no one will have done anything. Then something will happen to mum and everyone will end up running around like headless chickens trying to find a solution, planning ahead will make mums life easier.
Why not suggest to family for a caseworker from the local branch of the Alzheimers society to come and talk to you all, listen to what everyone says & put their points/concerns forward without falling out, then at least you can say that you’ve tried. As I’ve previously stated, they deal will families on a daily basis & tend have all the right people on speed dial and can muster them faster than you could

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I hear what you are saiying mate. Mum has already been put on the waiting list at the hospital for a full Assessment. I have to be gentle with the rest of the family though as they are the blood relative I'm just a cousin really although Mum (as I've always called her bought me up after my Mum passed away from cancer and dad was in the RAF posted abroad at the time, in 1962) so they are more emotionally invovled, I've got battle hardened from dealing with Arthur's dementia way back in 1998-2002. So I have t gently guide them one day at a tie and make mere suggestions that will get picked up. Iff I go inheavy handed lke "We must do this or that" then I tend to get shoved aside a bit. so it's Slowly , slowly at the moment.
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Spoke to Mum last night and sister, and Mum is back to normal!! Must have been some form of extreme stress. The Missus thinks that Mum may have some dort of vitamin deficiency, which may have caused this sort of seizure. Anyway we are ll going to keep an eye on her and have got the community Occupational Therapist involved.
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Iíve been thinking that itís been so long since Iíve read a custom bike mag, Iíve even forgotten to take a sneaky look while Iím passing the magazine shelves in the supermarket or WH Smithís to keep to to date
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Brother Terry has taken Mum to be her local hospital for a proper assessment and she has "Charles Bonnet" Syndrome borught on by these mini strokes that she's had. It another type of dementia, where the brain and memory detriorates in increments, i.e depletes, if that's the right word, in stages by fading a bit then reaches a plateau, stays like that for a while then fades a bit more then reaches another plateau, etc. At least we know know what we are dealing with and what to expect. The three of us will be keeping a lot closer look on her from now on.
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With over 600 different types of dementia itíll always be difficult to pin down the right way to deal with it, some are more dramatic than others, it sounds like hers is the slow progressive kind much like my dads was. His was the brain mass steadily shrinking inside the skull called global atrophy.
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