why do we do this job..

[dracken1]

theres no trains through my village today. then i heard that someone stepped in front of the 05.00 train at our village.
and now it's been confirmed,plus it's one of my residents.
it's so sad we try and often believe we are suceeding with these people and thier various probs.
we had no idea this guy was in the frame of mind he obviously was in, such a waste.
and now we'll have loads of paperwork to do.

[cxdemon]

You do it because occasionally, just occationally, people come back and say thanks for helping. most of the time they just go about their business after as if it was nowt. :confused:

[100%Pat]

A few years ago believe it or not I was a foster mum, 147 kids in 9 years!! Mainly difficult teenagers that no one else would take, and I asked myself that question a dozen times a week!! But it is as said above, just sometimes they come back and say..... thanks for that, and you find they have actually made something of their lives and you feel you did actually make a difference.
And those very few that do, make it worthwhile. Chin up mate, you do all you can, the rest is in 'him upstairs' hands not yours.

[TaxiDave]

[QUOTE=100%Pat] 147 kids in 9 years!! QUOTE]


Christ Pat, no wonder you say you've got saggy tits!! :D

[Doro]

you don't always have to hear them say thanks, just to know that out of hundreds of people who you're failed to help, there's one who you succeeded with, makes the rest worthwhile, and it's the trying that counts.

plus you get admiration from all of us for doing the job you do, all carers deserve medals and early retirement with x10 the average pension and then to be cared for by other people for a change





you do make a difference you know, no matter how small it seems to you...

[defarter]

[QUOTE=100%Pat] 147 kids in 9 years!! QUOTE]


Christ Pat, no wonder you say you've got saggy tits!! :D


Best crack of the day. :D :D :D

[100%Pat]

Feck Offjust Feck Off :d

[defarter]

oooOOOPPSSSsss :D :D :D :D

[Mrs Reject]

Pat as a FOSTER MUM! That is the last thing I ever would have thought :eek:
Did they ever find the bodies :D

[Rogue Monkey]

theres no trains through my village today. then i heard that someone stepped in front of the 05.00 train at our village.
and now it's been confirmed,plus it's one of my residents.
it's so sad we try and often believe we are suceeding with these people and thier various probs.
we had no idea this guy was in the frame of mind he obviously was in, such a waste.
and now we'll have loads of paperwork to do.
Know how ya feel mate. Last Tuesday we had a 16 year old lad discharge himself. He was dead by morning from an OD :eek: very sad! :(

[Friar Tuck]

To Pat and Doro,

Fuck! You've just made me cry!

I'm adopted, and I have been searching for my birth mother! Just to say Thankyou, I have a great family around me, and that if she wants to see me, fine! If not that's fine also!

But, above all, if she is lonely I'm here to help and be there!

Bugger, The Jack Daniel's got to me! I'm gonna have another!

[Bosun]

Pat as a FOSTER MUM! That is the last thing I ever would have thought :eek:
Did they ever find the bodies :D
not if she learnt from you :)

[100%Pat]

We moved house alot.... ran out of garden sometimes. :D
No it was a good few years and I wouldnt swop them for anything.... but I also wouldnt do it again now!! I think I used up all my maternal instincts, I dont have the patience or tolerance any more LOLOL
Plus the red tape and stupid rules that foster parents have to cope with now is damn ridiculous and I would be arrested if I used some of the tactics that I used ten years ago!!! E.G. - Constructive counseling......A bloody good clip round the earole!! Hygiene advice & training = throwing filthy smelly clothes out of bedroom windows!! peer group/inter family argument resolvement = a home made boxing ring in the back garden and 5 mins per grievence!!
They'd slaughter me now in court but it damn well worked, we turned out more kids who went on to sort out their lives into something decent than any other foster parents/home in our area.

[madastoast]

The Mrs. has psychiatric problems and she has had good help and bad help but most of the time no-one stays in a post long enoughfor her to get to the thankyou stage. The most recent cpn gave her a s*** load of stuff to read and she just couldn't hack it so the cpn said she wasn't willing to help herself so it was pointless her seeing the cpn thats the NHS for you cop out as fast as poss and get back on that waiting list she's only been ill for 14 yrs so she's not really a priority case

[Rogue Monkey]

If ya live in england (scot MHA is different) Ya CPN cant just discharge someone as easy as that. They were well out of order discharging someone in those cicumstances. I been a CPN and ya just cant fob people off with a load o pamphlets! ya job is to assess their mental state and use all the appropriate measures you ave at yer disposal to facilitate yer patient achieving their optimum level of functioning. Ya cant just discharge someone cos they dont read yer leaflets! That sucks! they should ave been a bit more proactive! :(

[madastoast]

The mental health system we have around us here in sheff is crap they are too busy trying to juggle all the patients at once that they don't seem to actually get anywhere with their treatment unless they actually have the patients sectioned and have to then deal with the patients problems. the only real help she has had has been the stuff that I've learned off the internet and helped her with she has panic attacks and loads of other stuff. I'm just gettin' her out of a bad case of agorophobia that's been hard work she' up and down all over the place but getting help is hard as I said they are really stretched so out comes the diy head (I hope she never needs surgery I hate the sight of blood) :D

[STEViE]

This is my 100th post an' I'm really pleased to be able to put it on such a great thread. You lot are bloody amazin' people, you really are. I salute you :cool:


Sorry. That was the only smiley that got anywhere near summin' up my admiration for you folks

[100%Pat]

why does your 100th post read 105? LOLOL well done mate! Bike? Bike? what bike?

[STEViE]

Oh it is Monday mornin' isn't it Pat. It was my 100th post at the time but since then I've made a few more so with this one it should now read 106.


Bike? Bike? I'll give ya bike !!!

I'm told there's 4 days worth of work left to do but that prolly means at least anutha few weeks in real time maybe a month. Who feckin' knows.

'kin builders. Sorry Rick not aimed at you. But I know I ain't the only one this has happened to an' that he ain't the only builder that's done this. This is what comes of folks takin' on too much work jus' so's they keep money comin' in but it's a really crap way of workin' 'cos there's always gonna be a cash-flow problem further down the line when any monies paid up front have been spent on other things. It's bollox. Utter bollox.

STILL NOT VERY HAPPY of Blazin'smoke.

My song 'Twenty-three Months, Five Days, Sixteen Hours an' Twenty-seven minutes' becomes a reallity at 04.27am Friday 29th October. I WILL be playin' it at the Caldarium MCC Hex Rated Rally at The Plough in Arncott, Nr Bicester that nite. Too bloody right !!