Young pups today!

[Mrs Reject]

I don't know - kids today! Mrs R's Sprogg who ran away from home not to be seen again for ages has been in touch and is having a tough time of it it Brighton, trying to find a job, pay rent etc etc. I simply cannot understand how a graduate can only find a part time job in a shop! When I left home I immediately went to train as a nurse because i was offered free food, accommodation and training and a guaranteed salary so I had no worries at all.
He did think seriously of joining the navy which I think is a fantastic idea, again, free food, accommodation, security, see the world for free and get paid for it, learn a profession and some discipline and gain real confidence. He has discounted this idea as he says the uniform looks gay!!!!
Will one of you please go round there and give him a slap because he is testing my motherly patience to it's limit!

[Mrs Reject]

Oh yeah, and he has been done for not filling out his SORN declaration!

[dracken1]

lol funnt even in these enlightened times some people still associate the navy with homosexuality. guess the village people did'nt help :)
but the army/raf offer the same things. let me guess the raf uniform clashes with his eye colour.
i did a stint in the raf as a weapons mechanic and i enjoyed it back then. today its a holiday.
a mate of mine is in the engineers. during basic training they have to rest frequently by law he's home almost as often as he's away. he's been to iraq and afganistan where they lay around a pool for 10 days as they were waiting for 10 more engineers to arrive from the uk. who never did arrive due to budget restrictions for flying them out there.
he could and sounds like he is doing a lot worse!

[Bosun]

i am a bit worried re the use of Brighton, Rent and Gay all in one posting Mrs R.

i shall despatch a friend with all haste to slap him with a wet haddock for you ( or celery if his vegetarianism means no fish)

[Mrs Reject]

Thank you very much :) I know he's not gay because he refuses to eat quiche, he calls it gay pie. I came home once and he was secretly eating quiche, when I confronted him he said he was pie-curious...............I'll get me coat!

[acidpixie]

sorry to be the bearer of bad news mrs reject but all this "gay-pie" and "gay uniform" stuff sounds like classic denial to me.

my vote sayes "stick im in the army"

[ForestFred]

my vote sayes "stick im in the army"Why? whats the Army ever done to you! :)

[acidpixie]

it made me give back the jacket an bits an bobs i took home by mistake. :(

[BikerGran]

I simply cannot understand how a graduate can only find a part time job in a shop!

Know what you mean - my littleun resisted all her teachers' efforts to get her to go to Uni, went out and got herself a job at 18 instead. Now (at 28)she's got her own house, nice car (well she thinks so) and the kind of income where she says 'if I want something I usually just get it'

And some of her graduate friends are still living in bedsits and working in shops!

[Doro]

Mrs R...


my advice is...and I know it will be difficult cos you're his mum and all.....but you gonna have to stand back and let him get on with it, making mistakes in life is how we learn, and we learn better if we have to fix the mistakes ourselves.

My ex is crap with money cos his parents used to bail him out all the time when he got into debt.

I know how hard it is cos you always have a soft spot there, but this is going to be my problem too one day, and I guess if you've taught your kids well, you've done your bit, if they then go on and get into trouble they only have themselves to blame.

just give advice and let them go

if you want to natter about it anytime let me know and I'll PM you my number


doro

not an expert but seeng it from the outside in........ :)

[Mrs Reject]

Thanks Doro! It is really hard though because my first instinct is to rush over there and rescue him but on the other hand he really needs to grow up fast and become a bit savvy about the world.
When I was his age I was a mum and a full time nursing student and had to get up an hour before I went to bed to get things done :) never had any money and barely survived those years.
I'm not sure I was any tougher than him, but it's really hard watchig your kid go through hard times even though he really needs to stand on his own two feet.
I've been pushing the merchant navy lately because I can't think of anything better for a young person, travel the world etc and it would look good on the CV too. he doesn't listen though so I am wasting my breath really!

[Doro]

same here, I was marrried with almost 2 kids at my daughter's age, on the dole, dealing with all the stuff they never teach you at school, my parents didn't bother to educate me about the real world either, so I had to learn the hard way too.

what did your son study at Uni?

merchant navy is good for a few years, and he'd definately learn some 'useful' stuff there. Any of the armed forces would be good cos you learn a lot and it looks good on your CV for future ventures

downside is that you have to go and fight, not merchant so much, but they can drag them into it at times.

merchant uniform is black jacket black trousers and white shirt, not gay at all, that's IF he actually has to wear a uniform, engineers tend to wear boiler suits lol

it is one of the most dangerous jobs though... :)

[Mrs Reject]

He did animation at uni - the drawn variety not computer animation. He is a fantastic artist, can draw or paint anything but jobs for that sort of thing are hard to find and he needs a job now to tide him over while he looks for something more suited.
I probably think he's doing worse than he actually is because he tends to ring me about the down side and not tell me when everything is ok.
I think my mothering instinct is too overdeveloped, maybe it's an Italian thing? We should be more like cat mothers, they are devoted mothers for the first three months of a kittens life then drive them away viciously to fend for themselves!:)

[Urban Terrorist]

Hard as it is, let him get on and him make his mistakes and choices. If he needs you, he'll ring.

My mother done me nut in until I escaped to freedom. Of course, I moved back twice, got into debt, spending 300 quid a week, while only earning 180 a week!!! But now I sorted, lovely wife(of 6 yrs), 2 lovely kids (sometimes :D ) and of course 10 bikes!!!!

Mind you, once my girls are older, I'm no-doubt be the same.............................................. .......................

[Rogue Monkey]

Maybe a spot of hard work in a shop will do him some good! He`s still young enough to learn! :)

[Mrs Reject]

Hard as it is, let him get on and him make his mistakes and choices. If he needs you, he'll ring.

My mother done me nut in until I escaped to freedom. Of course, I moved back twice, got into debt, spending 300 quid a week, while only earning 180 a week!!! But now I sorted, lovely wife(of 6 yrs), 2 lovely kids (sometimes :D ) and of course 10 bikes!!!!

Mind you, once my girls are older, I'm no-doubt be the same.............................................. .......................

Heehee, yes I also did his nut in by interfering and offering unwanted advice - he'd probably have gone mad if he'd stayed at home!!!:D